If your toddler suddenly resists bedtime, cries when you leave the room, or wakes frequently at night, separation anxiety could be the culprit. This is a normal stage of development, but it can make sleep tricky. The good news? With the right approach, you can help your little one feel safe and settled.
Why Does Separation Anxiety Affect Sleep?
Around 15-18 months and then again at 2 years, toddlers become more aware of being apart from you. This can lead to bedtime protests, night wakings, and clinginess during the day. Changes like starting nursery, moving house, or a new sibling can also trigger separation anxiety.
How to Help Your Toddler Feel Secure at Bedtime
✔ Have a Calming Bedtime Routine – A predictable sequence of bath, story, and cuddles helps your toddler feel safe and reassured.
✔ Use a Comfort Item – A favourite teddy, blanket, or even a parent-scented item can offer extra security when you’re not in the room.
✔ Practice Short Goodbyes in the Day – Games like peekaboo and gradually increasing time apart help build confidence that you always come back.
✔ Offer Reassurance Without Prolonging Separation – If they call out, respond briefly and calmly: "I’m right here, you’re safe, it’s time to sleep." Try to avoid creating new sleep associations like rocking or lying down with them.
✔ Consider a Toddler Clock – A sleep-training clock can visually show when it’s time to sleep and when it’s okay to get up, offering extra security.
Be Patient – This Phase Will Pass!
Separation anxiety is a sign of a strong bond, and with gentle reassurance, your toddler will regain confidence in sleeping independently.
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